Ideally, you should be able to get what you want in your divorce, right? It’s a common belief, however, that you need a judge to decide how much alimony or child support you will pay or when you will spend time with your children.
What you might not realize is that there are particular things you can do during the divorce process to increase your chances that you will ultimately achieve what matters most to you. Here are 5 ways:
1. Get clear on what matters most.
It sounds simple, but it takes some work on your part. Take the time to identify your most important values. These might include integrity, commitment, self-respect and respect for others, connectedness, community, compassion, making a difference, excellence, honesty, or security. The list is unlimited.