I’m getting a Divorce, Now What?!

Three Primary Processes Used to Get a Divorce

1. Mediation

2. Collaborative Divorce

3. Litigation

Mediation – a cooperative process that involves both spouses and a neutral facilitator.


  • Less costly then litigation
  • Spouses work together to reach their own resolutions rather than having a court decide


  • One spouse may try to dominate the other
  • There is no compelling of financial disclosure
  • Many times, there are no lawyers to advise spouses on the law during process.

Collaborative Divorce – enhanced mediation, similar to mediation but where each spouse has their own attorney and a team approach is used.


  • The parties control the outcome
  • A divorce coach can guide them to manage emotions and communicate effectively.


  • If process fails, attorneys must withdraw

Litigation – the process where an action is brought to court by filing a Complaint and Answer (Pleadings).


  • Where one party is concerned the other is creating marital debt, the Divorce Complaint ends the marriage for setting and valuing assets and debts.
  • Parties can file motions for temporary financial support or custody arrangements and get a binding order from the court.


  • Parties are on the court’s time schedule, not their own.
  • Generally more costly and longer lasting then previous two processes.