Divorce can be one of life’s most difficult transitions. If you’re a parent and are recently separated or divorced, here are 3 tips for sharing the kids with your spouse during the holidays.
1. Have your lawyer draft up a custody and parenting time agreement.
These agreements typically include holidays, school breaks, and vacations. Or, you might have an informal agreement with the other parent. Either way, it’s generally best to avoid leaving holiday plans up to the kids. It’s not uncommon for kids to feel guilty about leaving one parent alone. And kids generally benefit from an established routine, particularly during the holidays.
2. Keep holiday traditions in place.
If one side of the family traditionally hosts Christmas day, it’s generally a good idea to continue that tradition to maintain consistency and routine for the kids.
3. Consider new holiday traditions.
Encouraging your kids to put their talents and interests to work for a good cause can help ease the transition for them – and you.
If your child enjoys cooking or baking, you might consider making meals to donate to a local soup kitchen or senior center. Or baking cookies and wrapping them up to deliver to neighbors. The key is to use your imagination to create festive new traditions that can be shared with your children for years to come.
When it comes to divorce and navigating the holidays with kids, consistency, and stability is important, as is remaining open and flexible.
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