When you are going through a divorce or facing a custody or parenting time dispute with your spouse, you should be sure and make your voice be heard so that a meaningful result can be achieved. This is different than arguing back and forth with your spouse so that neither one of you is hearing the other or understanding where the other is coming from. Keep in mind the following regardless of whether your case has yet been formally initiated in court:
1. Clarify your voice. Determine what you want for yourself and your children. Set your intention on the result that you want and be as specific as possible. Write it down if you prefer. For example, in determining what you want for your children, you might look to how you and your spouse parented them during the marriage and ask what will most naturally flow with the least amount of disruption to your children’s lives. You should also meet with a good certified financial planner who will help you define your short-term and long-term financial goals.