Many approach the divorce process believing that they have no control over the outcome and fearing the worst. They might search online or talk to friends and acquaintances about their experiences in an effort to “educate” themselves about what to expect.
Here’s the truth in my experience –you can control whether or not you have an amicable divorce.
You can take one single action right now to drastically reduce conflict and achieve successful agreement with your spouse on the key issues of custody and parenting time, child support, alimony, allocation of payment for college and other expenses for the children, and division of marital assets and debts.
You can preserve what matters most to you and to your children, while saving high financial and emotional costs in the divorce process.
Identify your key personal values.
According to renowned behavioral experts, including Anthony Robbins and Dr. John Demartini, acting in line with our highest values empowers us to create the circumstances that we desire most.
Examples of personal values include family, integrity, honoring your commitments, self-respect and respect for others, compassion, making a difference, excellence, and honesty. The list is unlimited. Be specific in defining your values. For instance, if you value family, perhaps it is more accurate to say that you value being emotionally connected to your children. Rank the values that resonate the most with you until you’ve identified your top three.
Then you might question what your spouse values. This can provide valuable insight into why he or she makes decisions.
Finally, make it a daily habit to be aware of whether the decisions you make and the actions you take are consistent with your key values.
Build on the positive momentum by taking time regularly to appreciate someone by thanking them and letting them know how much they mean to you. Guided by your key values, look for opportunities to help others or your community by contributing your natural talents and strengths.
Knowing what your key values are and how you can help others will build confidence and empower you to create an environment that promotes an amicable and successful settlement between you and your spouse. An amicable divorce is certainly beneficial to you and most importantly, your children.
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